tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3688523892454908341.post5593283813937316833..comments2023-10-30T07:16:37.189-05:00Comments on Macaroni and Chicken Fingers. . .: Tuesday Debate- Other People's KidsMelissahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06029129476715181100noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3688523892454908341.post-83225623244743686342009-06-30T11:30:45.588-05:002009-06-30T11:30:45.588-05:00LOVE THIS!!! YES (screaming it) I always say somet...LOVE THIS!!! YES (screaming it) I always say something to the child and if the parent is around, I say it loud enough that the parent hears it. I say it calmly and sternly and I use words that catch their attention, such as, "making fun of someone isn't going to help you feel better about yourself, so there is no need to act that way, be kind, it works better!" that's me talking to two tween boys riding bikes around our neighborhood after hearing my son and his friends warning each other each time a car was coming during our walk.. the tweens wanted to mock my son and company for yelling car each time...so I responded. The tweens stopped, stunned an adult would correct them and then rode on. <br /><br />Here's my beef with this: ITS THE PARENTS FAULT that these kids are SO incredibly rude -my son knows better and uses manners, which have been taught in the home first....<br /><br />okay,breath.....<br /><br />It isn't only in the lazy river or in the neighborhood, it's also in schools, churches, stores, amusements parks and the list could go on and on and onAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3688523892454908341.post-75294320000583398062009-06-30T08:34:15.763-05:002009-06-30T08:34:15.763-05:00I struggle with this more often than I want to adm...I struggle with this more often than I want to admit. I typically handle "kid conflict" by stepping back and watching my kids defend themselves. However, if the conflict accelerates or involves any sort of physical contact, I'll step in and try to act as moderator. <br /><br />A few months ago, my six year old's "best friend" kept yanking on her backpack and not allowing her to walk three steps without being jerked (fairly forcefully) backwards. Meredith repeatedly told the girl to stop. When she didn't, I wedged myself between them and said, "Do you not understand STOP?! STOP means get your hands off of her backpack!" (I still feel guilty about raising my voice. However, with that said, the mom of "best friend" was sitting there and laughing as she watched the entire thing--"best friend" being a bully, and Meredith nearly in tears because she wasn't being allowed to walk. Ggggrrrrr...)<br /><br />I like to think everyone out there is doing their best to raise thoughtful, smart, and kind children. (Nothing but blue skies do I see...) However, if a thoughtful, smart, and kind child shifts focus and becomes a menace, I think it's our jobs as moms to set them on the right path.Angiehttp://www.fluidpudding.comnoreply@blogger.com